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"Let Me Be The First To Congratulate You..."

It is amazing how much your conversations with people can change when you find out your are having a baby - even more so when you find out you are having two.



Before we had the twins I would have conversations with the following people about the following things:

KATE

1. What we were having for breakfast / lunch / dinner
2. How our day at work had been
3. Which supermarkets have Strongbow on offer
4. Which supermarkets have wine on offer
5. If we have enough money to buy Strongbow and wine
6. What movies we want to watch that week
7. What TV shows we want to watch that week
8. How annoying people are on "Come Dine With Me"
9. What we would do on "Come Dine With Me"
10. That we should maybe host a "Come Dine With Me" night with our friends
11. F*** that - let's buy pizza instead and get drunk
12. If we have enough money to buy pizza

PARENTS (MINE AND KATES)

1. When we are available for breakfast / lunch / dinner
2. How work has been going
3. If they are going to any supermarkets and can pick us up some Strongbow
4. If they watched "Come Dine With Me" that week
5. Holidays / Trips / Days Out
6. Things that happened in the past that are funny
7. Things that happened in the past that I think are funny but which they don't
8. If we can borrow some money to buy pizza

WORK COLLEAGUES

1. Work
2. Work
3. Work
4. Some b***end who did something related to work
5. Work
6. Work

OUT WITH THE BOYS

1. Work / Family / Life etc...all within the first 10 minutes
2. Movies
3. TV shows
4. Video games
5. Booze
6. Crisps

But oh how things change when you find out you are having a baby...

I will never forget the day we went for our 12 week scan. Up until that point we had no idea that we were having twins. We went to the hospital and we waited with anticipation amongst a bunch of other expectant parents who were there for scans too. We were called through, Kate lay down, they rubbed some gel stuff on her belly and put the endoscope (just Googled that) on and moved it about. From where I was sitting I could see the monitor and I noticed two white orb type things appear and then the Sonographer (Googled that too) pulled the endoscope away, looked at the other Sonographer who was on the computer pressing buttons and wiggled two fingers. At that moment I knew. We then had this conversation:

Sonographer: "Was this a natural conception or IVF"
Kate: "Natural, why?"
Sonographer: "Nothing to worry about, just wondering"

She then nodded to the other Sonographer who must have made some note of some kind.

Me: "Is everything OK?"
Sonographer: "Well...Let me be the first to congratulate you...It's twins"

The next twenty minutes are a bit of a blur. I remember I didn't really talk much as I was in shock and that Kate just lay there laughing, swearing, apologising for swearing, laughing more, swearing more, apologising more and then we were given a handful of images and asked to wait to meet the "Twin Midwife". We stood in the waiting room and I don't think it had quite sunk in yet as we didn't really talk much about it but just read through the leaflets that we had been given about "Multiples". We met the "Twin Midwife" and she told us what would happen over the pregnancy in that we would have more scans and check ups and that the pre-natal classes would be different. We left the hospital in a bit of a daze and told our parents (I will cover that in more detail on another day), made various phone calls to people we wanted to tell first hand and then we announced it on Facebook. After that moment my conversations with people changed dramatically.

After we found out we were having twins I would have conversations with the following people about the following things:

KATE

1. Twins
2. Money
3. Where we would fit everything - we might have to move
4. Cravings (changed on a weekly basis)
5. Twins
6. Money
7. Names
8. Appointments and scans and classes
9. Twins
10. Money
11. Twins
12. Can we still afford pizza...we were saving a shed load of money not buying wine so surely we can

PARENTS (MINE AND KATES)

1. Twins
2. Money
3. Twins
4. Money
5. Twins
6. Money
7. Twins
8. Money

WORK COLLEAGUES

1. Twins
2. Work
3. Work
4. Some b***end we know through work who has twins that will probably grow up to be b***ends too 
5. Work
6. Work

OUT WITH THE BOYS

1. Twins...within the first 10 minutes 
2. Movies I won't get to see
3. TV shows I'll have to start watching like "Peppa Pig" and "In The Night Garden"
4. Video games I'll never be able to afford
5. Booze I'll never be able to afford but want so, so badly
6. Crisps I'll never be able to eat by myself due to tiny hands demanding half of them



So, yeah, conversations change when you announce you are having a baby or having babies. Life changes. Nothing is ever the same again. But as clichéd as it sounds I wouldn't change it. Life was pretty great before we had the twins and with them in our lives it is even better.

And on that note I will sign off.

Until next time

The Twiglet's Dad

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